Cesarean or Natural Birth

Cesarean or Natural Birth.

How I ended up from Cesarean delivery to a normal delivery?
I’m Kia Boon, 26 years old. I was on my 39weeks of pregnancy. I went for my last detailed scanning to check how big and how heavy he was before delivery. According to my doctor, given my height at 1.55cm the most ideal weight to deliver a baby was about 3kg – 3.2kg. However, the detail scan report came out showed that baby was way above the ideal delivery weight. He was estimated  at 3.7kg weight and head size was about 10.2cm in diameter.After the report was given, I went back to my gyane clinic that same morning. Looking through the report, my gyane didn’t give me a chance to go for a normal delivery. Straight to the point my gyane mentioned that baby’s head size and the weight from the scan of 3.7kg makes it very tough for me to have a normal delivery and he suggested that I should go for a c-section. I insisted that I would like to try to go for a normal delivery instead of a c-section. 

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What did my gyane told me?Two cases. Firstly, if I couldn’t push the baby out, he would using a forcep and it might cause injury to baby’s face. He asked “Are we ok?”Secondly, shoulder would be the other part to consider. If I couldn’t push, he would have to dislocate the shoulder and fix back once baby was out. 
After hearing those scary information from my gyane, i told him that I would like to reconsider and seek 2nd opinion before going for c-section. I really wanted to have a normal delivery and not a c-section. By that time, I had already broken down into tears, thinking at 39 weeks of pregnancy, which gyane would want to take me in? Did I really need to go for a c-section? 
My husband Yong Sheng was very supportive. He was calming me down, asking me if I was ok for c-section or I really wanted to have a normal delivery. Most importantly, he wanted both Mother and son to be safe. With him having a calm mind beside me, I asked him to call my elder sister Amelia to seek for opinion if she could find any gyane to take me in. 
Amelia was calming me down and was telling me that she would check with Doula Yen. While waiting, lots of thoughts went through my mind. It was unimaginable and stressful at such a junction. 
Finally, a called from Amelia came in. She told Yong Sheng to try second gyane from Thomson Medical Centre. Without hesitation, we called Doctor Pamela Tan to make an appointment on the same day afternoon 4pm for check up. 
Can you imagine all these happening all on the same morning? 
After all those worries and crying, we went to meet Doctor Pamela Tan hoping that she would take me in and would help me on normal delivery. Doctor Pamela Tam gave me hope, she said that I can give it a try as she had once assisted her patient to deliver a 4kg baby with height of 55cm too. 
I was thankful that she took over our case, all left was the big day for baby to arrive. Who knew that on the same day after meeting Dr Pamela, I started experiencing contractions at 10pm. I was ready to admit for labour. With Doctor Pamela’s help, I managed to have a safe vaginal delivery. Baby was healthy and weighed only 3.1Kg at birth. 
All this happened too sudden and quickly. I was beyond words, blessed to have supportive people around me and really thankful that I had signed up for the HypnoBirthing talk by Yen when I was at 37 weeks pregnant. 
Now, thinking back i would have regreted if I had gone for a c-section instead of seeking 2nd opinion. 
Thank you Yen for the seminar and knowledge shared. Without this talk, I could have lived my life with worse regrets! No point in pregnancy was ever too late to take back control. 

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Cesarean or Natural Birth

How I ended up from Cesarean delivery to a normal delivery?
I’m Kia Boon, 26 years old. I was on my 39weeks of pregnancy. I went for my last detailed scanning to check how big and how heavy he was before delivery. According to my doctor, given my height at 1.55cm the most ideal weight to deliver a baby was about 3kg – 3.2kg. However, the detail scan report came out showed that baby was way above the ideal delivery weight. He was estimated  at 3.7kg weight and head size was about 10.2cm in diameter.After the report was given, I went back to my gyane clinic that same morning. Looking through the report, my gyane didn’t give me a chance to go for a normal delivery. Straight to the point my gyane mentioned that baby’s head size and the weight from the scan of 3.7kg makes it very tough for me to have a normal delivery and he suggested that I should go for a c-section. I insisted that I would like to try to go for a normal delivery instead of a c-section. 

What did my gyane told me?Two cases. Firstly, if I couldn’t push the baby out, he would using a forcep and it might cause injury to baby’s face. He asked “Are we ok?”Secondly, shoulder would be the other part to consider. If I couldn’t push, he would have to dislocate the shoulder and fix back once baby was out. 
After hearing those scary information from my gyane, i told him that I would like to reconsider and seek 2nd opinion before going for c-section. I really wanted to have a normal delivery and not a c-section. By that time, I had already broken down into tears, thinking at 39 weeks of pregnancy, which gyane would want to take me in? Did I really need to go for a c-section? 
My husband Yong Sheng was very supportive. He was calming me down, asking me if I was ok for c-section or I really wanted to have a normal delivery. Most importantly, he wanted both Mother and son to be safe. With him having a calm mind beside me, I asked him to call my elder sister Amelia to seek for opinion if she could find any gyane to take me in. 
Amelia was calming me down and was telling me that she would check with Doula Yen. While waiting, lots of thoughts went through my mind. It was unimaginable and stressful at such a junction. 
Finally, a called from Amelia came in. She told Yong Sheng to try second gyane from Thomson Medical Centre. Without hesitation, we called Doctor Pamela Tan to make an appointment on the same day afternoon 4pm for check up. 
Can you imagine all these happening all on the same morning? 
After all those worries and crying, we went to meet Doctor Pamela Tan hoping that she would take me in and would help me on normal delivery. Doctor Pamela Tam gave me hope, she said that I can give it a try as she had once assisted her patient to deliver a 4kg baby with height of 55cm too. 
I was thankful that she took over our case, all left was the big day for baby to arrive. Who knew that on the same day after meeting Dr Pamela, I started experiencing contractions at 10pm. I was ready to admit for labour. With Doctor Pamela’s help, I managed to have a safe vaginal delivery. Baby was healthy and weighed only 3.1Kg at birth. 
All this happened too sudden and quickly. I was beyond words, blessed to have supportive people around me and really thankful that I had signed up for the HypnoBirthing talk by Yen when I was at 37 weeks pregnant. 
Now, thinking back i would have regreted if I had gone for a c-section instead of seeking 2nd opinion. 
Thank you Yen for the seminar and knowledge shared. Without this talk, I could have lived my life with worse regrets! No point in pregnancy was ever too late to take back control. 

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Lillian’s Two Breech Babies

I am Lillian. My husband and I wanted natural birth so we took HypnoBirthing course and hire a Doula to prepare for our first birth. During my first pregnancy in 2017, my baby was found in a transverse position around 34 weeks. With my Doula’s guidance, we embarked on breech tilt, forward leaning inversion, side lying release and various other exercises and baby successfully turned head down at 36 weeks. We were relieved. However, by 38 weeks, my baby decided to go back to head up but this time, she was in breech position! My doctor suggested c-section but we were very reluctant to go with that option. We asked if vaginal breech birth was possible. My doctor mentioned that it was possible but he would not recommend due to the risks involved – he mentioned that it was more difficult for first time mom and there may be risk of baby’s head get stuck.

I was worried and confused but at same time, I knew breech tilt was one of the ways to turn baby head down and we continued with the exercises we did when we help YuHui rotate to head down position earlier. This time, I also had a Breech Turn Hypnosis session on 4th March 2017 with my HypnoBirthing Instructor cum Doula. On 6th March, I had chiropractic adjustment just before doctor’s visit, ultrasound scan confirmed baby had successfully turned back to head down position at 39 weeks! I went on to birth Baby Yuhui at 40 weeks 6 days. We were very happy!

During my second pregnancy, my baby was in transverse position again at 36 weeks much like the first pregnancy. This time I was not panic as I had experience in helping my baby to turn head down. I continued the forward leaning inversion and side lying release exercises again and baby indeed turn to head down at 38 weeks. I birthed my second baby past 40 weeks again on 25 October 2018.

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Christopher’s Unwanted Stress

The time I heard from my wife about HypnoBirthing. The first thought which came to my mind was- are you out of your mind? She is a Mother of 3 boys already and all were natural birth as to what I understood then. I thought she had nothing else better to do or had too much free time to go and pay someone to hypnotize her so she could give birth to our 4th child. I eventually agreed to accompany her as she shared that it was 6 sessions and I was too lazy to read the books and I also wanted my Wife to be happy. Remember guys: happy Wife, happy life!

I always had this thought in my head that hypnosis is usually done by witches but I went with an open mind to hear and see what this was about. My advise to future parents or first-time parents is to have a really open mind and learn and don’t be afraid to ask questions if you have any doubts at any time.

After the first two sessions, Yen shared real life stories from her experience with countless deliveries and the group we had was very curious as we had mostly mothers who had given birth before attending the sessions. It seems that for first time parents-to-be wouldn’t ask so much as ignorance is bliss and they are there to learn. I was very curious as to why would mothers with experience be wanting to pay for this course so that thought made me want to continue attending to see what all these scam was all about. Yes- it was not a scam and to be honest, I never knew there was such a thing as a Doula.

I am Glad that I didn’t miss any of the sessions as my perception of Hospitals, Doctors, Nurses, parents old wives tales and especially the concept of natural birth totally changed! I felt that I was enlighten and to be made more fully aware of all the medical procedures being practiced. She practically educated us to be more aware of the how, when and the what to do and can be done in any circumstance from the gynae visits to the delivery. By the 3rd or 4th session, I was like a rebellion against the society (something like the Star Wars or Matrix movie)

My main take-away’s post the sessions are as below:

I was shocked to learn that my earlier 3 boys so-called natural birth was nowhere near natural.
I was sad to be made aware of the practices followed by Doctors and Nurses today whereby they follow blindly as to what technology has made them what they are and practice today.
I am Glad to know that BOTH parents have a right and a space to express your requirements. (This is depending on the doctor you choose)
I urge all future parents or parents to educate themselves on HypnoBirthing and not let society and the norm to take over your basic rights as a parent for your own child.
My hope is to have this embedded into the system to overhaul the existing birth methods/practices and to bring humanity back to its beautiful natural way.
My advise to future parents is to stay strong and focus and not let the blind lead the blind. This is your own flesh and blood so this is the least a parent can do for them to start right as this is only the beginning of your parenting journey so I hope you make the best decision.

Fast forwarding to the delivery date. I must comment that we really liked Thomson medical and our Gynae Dr Pamela Tan who was calm and supported us fully in our requests to go for fully natural birth. Whatever I learnt from Yen all came naturally at that moment and I think it’s best for my dear Wife to comment on this. One important point for the Husband during labor is to keep on encouraging and relaxing her so she doesn’t give up especially when the contractions are stronger.

From a realistic point of view, this saved me money, unwanted stress of the unknown and all 3 of us; me, my wife and baby were well prepared.
Our 4th baby boy was welcomed into this world fully natural and he is now 4 months old weighing 8kg, smiling and the journey continues……
Christopher Toh
Father of 4 Boys 😜 written in October 2018

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Disclaimer: This is the view of individual and not represent HypnoBirthing Institute or Childbirth Odyssey. It is purely husband/father sharing his thought that’s why it is called Birth Story.

Fear of Childbirth and Elective Cesarean

Why Women Choose Cesarean?

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Cesarean birth is major abdominal surgery with or without a medical condition. Elective cesarean is the choice of the mother/couple to have their baby at specific date and time of delivery. This question has disturbed me for quite some times. I realised that people choose delivery through cesarean have lots of Fear. These fears are due to fear of childbirth pain, fear of not being able to give birth due to carrying a “big size baby”, fear of the unknown-uncertainly of how birth will turn out to be, the fear of jeopardising the safety of the baby and that of the mother puts woman to think of a definitely outcome. i.e. elective cesarean birth.  There are other fears that are not mentioned here which not everyone can accept.

Milli Hill, the Founder of The Positive Birth Movement, in her post Should We Be So Very Scared of Giving Birth? is based on research finding that as many as one in 10 women suffered from tocophobia, leading to more women elect for cesarean birth due to extreme anxiety and fear of giving birth regardless of how joyful her pregnancy had been. Such fears can turn their birth upside down. Normal birth can turn out to be much with medical intervention such as birth augmentation, taking pain relief medication, forceps, vacuum extraction and cesarean birth when the woman in labour is too anxious, fearful of their birth and not willing to take charge of their birth due to lack of knowledge in childbirth. Much of the fear is developed due to myths of childbirth. 

Women’s natural birthing inhibited by fear. These fear are mainly due to the following factors:

  • Media portraits childbirth as traumatic and dramatic
  • Birth stories of other women’s experience with much medical intervention
  • Women approach birth with negative expectations
  • Women do not believe they can do it
  • Childbirth becomes a medical event in many developed countries

Below is the Cycle of Fear becomes Fact leads to Negative Birth

Fear is the enemy of the birthing room. If pain is the main reason you choose cesarean birth, then understand that Pain is due to Fear. During labour, when fear kicks in, it creates tension and thus, the tension in the body creates pain. Childbirth pain is no longer an issue as fear can be eliminated with a deep level of relaxation using techniques such as breathing, relaxation, visualisation and self-hypnosis. A woman can give birth in a calm and relax manner. HypnoBirthing’s relaxation methods increase the body’s natural relaxant, endorphins which inhibit the stress hormone catecholamine that causes pain, reduces much discomfort. Hence, a woman is capable of birthing in a calm and comfortable way to bring the little baby into this world.  

Marie Mongan the Founder of HypnoBirthing®-The Mongan Method has been teaching HypnoBirthing Childbirth Education since 1989 to women who seek drug-free birth. She believes that birth is natural, normal and healthy.  When the mind is relaxed, body is relaxed. Mind and body are free to function in harmony in the absence of fear. The HypnoBirthing® philosophy is that a healthy woman carrying a healthy baby, experiencing a healthy labor, trusting birth and is free of fear, is appropriately relaxed, her body will function normally without pain or incident. Therefore, women who are not in the high risk group does not need medical assistance but rather the patience of the birthing attendance and proper emotional support. 

You can break this Cycle of Birthing Negativity by attending a proper Natural Childbirth Education. Knowledge is power, the power to be in control. Replacing these old negative beliefs with positive beliefs and releasing the fear of giving birth with the help of Hypnosis.  What woman needs is to prepare their mind and body for birth. With the right kind of support, she can achieve the birth she desires and become stronger.

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  1. HypnoBirthing-Holistic Childbirth 1.5 hrs $80
  • Maternal care in Singapore
  • What causes pain in labour and how to eliminate pain without drugs
  • Role of a partner/husband in labour and birth
  • Law of the Mind in Childbirth
  • Experience hypnosis – Mind-Body connection

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Saturday  6.30pm-8.00pm

2. Birth Options and Partner Massage 2hrs (worth $100)

  • Labour ward facilities in various hospitals – Choosing the birth environment that’s right for you
  • Difference between water birth, hydrotherapy and other options
  • Relaxation methods vs chemical pain reliefs (group work)
  • Partner’s Massage-for grounding and to promote the release of endorphins. You will learn when and how to use light touch massage, firm touch, counter pressure, acupressure points etc.
  • Finding your right team of support-What is a Birth Doula

Venue: Beauty Mums and Babies, 290 Orchard Rd, #14-11/12 Paragon Tower 1, Lift Lobby F
Wednesday 5 November, 7.00pm – 9.00pmShould you require further assistance, please contact us

Jane’s Unplanned Cesarean Yet Wonderful

Labouring in the delivery suite for 32 hours without an epidural, ironically, wasn’t too laborious, thanks to hypnobirthing. Doctors and nurses were constantly amazed that I kept declining the offer of analgesia even when I was on maximum dose of oxytocin (induction medication) and my surges (contractions) were all frequent and strong. While I had initially desired a natural vaginal birth, I eventually had a Caesarean birth as Josiah was borderline preterm and the labour was considered prolonged. Intraoperatively, doctors discovered that the umbilical cord was wrapped around Josiah in 3 different locations (neck, trunk and leg), which would explain why the birthing was not progressing earlier on. Everyone was surprised that Josiah did not show any signs of distress throughout his cardiotocography monitoring and the operating team labelled him a “fighter” as he thrived well beyond expectation. I believe that Josiah’s calmness during all those 32 hours leading up to his birth is a testament to the relaxing effect of HypnoBirthing, not just on the mother but also on the baby. I was also able to utilize the techniques learnt to recover well postnatally and again, the team was amazed that I could manage the post-op pain with only simple paracetamol and no other analgesics. Thanks to HypnoBirthing, both Josiah and I had a wonderful birthing experience even when things did not go as planned.

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Charmaine’s First Birth

This is Charmaine’s inspiring birth story in May 2017. After 2 years, Charmaine decided to share her birth experience of transferring of the hospital and a change of OBGYN on the day of her labour. Below is her inspiring birth story.

Taking up a HypnoBirthing course with Childbirth Odyssey was definitely one of the best decisions I have made in my life. I have never thought going through drug-free natural childbirth could be so calm and fulfilling, which is totally opposite of what my gynaecologist (not a pro-natural gynaecologist) had described. Till today, I’m very thankful to have met Yen, who made natural birth a possible dream for me.

Attending a HypnoBirthing course was not something that I knew I wanted at the beginning. The only thing I had in my mind was my determination to avoid getting an epidural shot. However, having no experience, I was not confident if I could do so as a first-time mum. Also, I felt that getting an epidural shot isn’t truly experiencing childbirth and that was when I felt I needed to arm myself with information. I started off with looking at antenatal courses available online and read up reviews. That was when I came to realise most antenatal courses tend to sell you pain relieve options using drugs and they don’t help you appreciate the process of childbirth. This was when I learn about the HypnoBirthing course offered by Childbirth Odyssey and I decided to give it a try.

Finally, the day arrived when my baby is ready to come to the world (one week before EDD). My water bag broke (membrane released) at 4:30 am. Having learnt the signs of labour from the course, I knew that it was still early and certainly no rush to get to the hospital. Coincidentally, I had an appointment with the gynaecologist on the same day at 9:00 am and decided to get to Gleneagles hospital based on the scheduled time (we were monitoring the timings between the cramps and knew there was no point going earlier). My gynaecologist checked me around 9:30 am and said that I have not dilated. This was when he immediately strongly advised me to induce labour as he said there will be a concern with infection since my water bag had burst. Sensing the urgency from his tone, I naturally asked the question: “How long are you willing to wait? By what time should I give birth as you advised that the birth needs to be speed up?” He replied that he will proceed with a c-section if my baby doesn’t come out by evening.

I refused to accept his advice as I knew that I had no risk of infection as I was tested negative for group strep infection at the 37th week of my pregnancy. Moreover, if there are no repeated unnecessary checks by nurses during labour, there will not be any risks of infections. To my disappointment, the gynaecologist had totally disregarded my birth plan (which he had insisted not to sign) and threatened not to take my case if I didn’t follow his instructions (blindly). Luckily I had my research done and I knew where to find a pro-natural gynaecologist (Dr Paul Tseng), which at that time I had some regrets not having transferred to one earlier on. During this period of time, I was also fortunate to have Yen supporting me and also a friend who had gone through a natural birth process, which played a huge role in affirming my decision to rush to seek a second opinion from a pro-natural gynaecologist.

Getting confirmation from Dr Paul Tseng’s clinic took more than an hour. It was such great relief that they could take my case, but I was referred to Dr Pamela Tan instead as Dr Paul Tseng had been fully booked. By the time we saw Dr Pamela Tan at Thomson Medical, it was 11:45 am. She checked me and I had dilated by 4cm. She also confirmed that my water bag burst was no threat to my baby as our body replenishes the ammonitic fluid three times a day (we just need to keep ourselves hydrated). Also, Dr Pamela Tan was very professional and went through every item in my birth plan. She ensured a natural birth and would only advise for any medical intervention if necessary (that is life and death situation). I checked into the labour ward immediately and nurses were surprised by my bold decision as such last-minute transfers had never happened before.

During the period of time when I was in the labour ward, I was allowed to move freely with a mobile heart rate monitor. I used techniques learned at the course to help me gain comfortable positions to manage the sensations that I was experiencing. No nurses came in to disrupt and there were no vaginal checks conducted. Yen came shortly after and that was when I start to feel stronger surges at closer intervals. I began to experiment different birthing positions and I found squatting on the floor with half of my body lying on the bed as the most comfortable. I breathed and followed the surges, and sync with my child to help him out of the birth passage. At 2:50 pm, my baby arrived.

Thinking back, I am still in awe at what had happened. Without having met Yen from the course, I would not have the faith that I am making the right decisions to make natural birth possible. Also, from this experience, I came to realized having a pro-natural gynaecologist (advice from Yen which I should have taken seriously on the onset) makes a lot of difference. Thank you Yen once again for your efforts!

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Wendy’s Positive Birth with Epidural

“Thank you, Yen! Your prenatal classes were very helpful especially the last few days as I got thrown into breastfeeding at 2-hour intervals. I was flipping through your notes on all the crying cures and how to latch etc. Fortunately, Lila latched quite well and has been quite a calm baby. At least, when she cries, we understand why.” ~ Wendy Chua, first time mother

I Felt More Like Pressure Than Pain

My birth didn’t go as planned. I was feeling more Braxton contractions towards Sunday when I was due to be admitted at night for the inducement. I knew my cervix was softening and I was closed but may have needed that extra trigger. They gave me prostaglandins to soften the cervix at midnight. By 3.00 am, I started having labour contractions. By 8.00 am, it was at 2 minutes interval and quite intense. But I was only 2cm dilated. I was still managing the contractions quite well in the ward, feeling them more like pressure than pain.But when I went down to the delivery suite, things quickly got out of my control. They got me strapped down again with the heartbeat monitor, take a laxative to clear my bowels and blood pressure reading etc. And of course all the questions about pain level despite our birth plan stating not to ask that. I had to negotiate at every step asking when can I have the birth ball, when can I get off the bed because lying down made the contractions worse.

Pitocin Stress Me Up

My Doctor wanted to proceed to the next step which was breaking the waterbag and giving me the Pitocin drip and she did that. I guess the stress built up and at a certain moment, the contractions visibly went from pressure to pain. And it was very difficult to go back to relaxing and breathing it away. Also, with it being so intense at 2 minutes interval and the doctor estimated I still needed 8 hours to dilate, I opted for the epidural. I also slept little and was mentally exhausted to manage the contractions.

My Baby Rejected Pitocin

But the good thing is my body was actually responding to the pill and did not need additional drugs. The baby rejected the Pitocin with heartbeat dipping every time it was given so they switched it off and realised my contractions continued and my dilation was happening fast. So in the end, I didn’t need the second step and my baby avoided the Pitocin as much as possible. I was 10 cm opened by 3-4 pm, after 7hrs.

The Birthing Deviated From the Book

They maintained a low dosage of epidural and lowered it further for the birthing and I started feeling the contractions again. But the birthing was another experience that deviated from the book. The nurses insisted on guided pushing and me holding my breath. I had to sit there negotiating with her and she would tell me to try but it would not work to just breathe down. I had to push instead, but holding my breath was really counter-intuitive and I could not feel I am achieving anything though the nurse assured me the baby was moving. I pushed (though mentally not clench my teeth and relax my vaginal muscles) and had to hold my breath and direct the force down through the abdominal to the vagina as they guided. But still, after an hour, the baby hasn’t crowned.

I Was Exhaused From Pushing

I was quite exhausted but my baby was not near to crowning. So, in the end, another nurse came in and they helped to push my belly. Following, my gynae came in and I told her to help with a ventouse suction if possible. So we tried three times with this team effort and on the third, she cut and did a bit of vacuum, on top of with the help of the nurses pushing my belly while I pushed. Lila came out. I had a second-degree cut that was stitched but didn’t reach the anus.Lila was born 3.345kg heavy and had a big head of 36cm. So even though she was anterior the last phase was tough. Because she seemed to be pressing on my tailbone. I had a horrible back pain that I needed Gucci to massage while I waited for the next surge to push. It was quite unbearable this ache in the tailbone because of the baby’s weight.

I Would Get a Doula & a Pro-HypnoBirth Doctor

Looking back, I was hoping to labour naturally at home and be able to manage contractions without medical equipment strapped to me with my familiar birth ball and labour tools available at home. But having a doctor that supports this is critical and I guess my doctor and her team were not pro-Hypno. I asked to be free from being strapped to the heart rate monitor but at that moment the only mobile heart monitor was in room 15 with Dr Paul Tseng’s patient. And my Doctor insisted on constant observation of the baby’s condition since I am already in active management and medically induced.

I have two friends who successfully managed their births with natural labour with HypnoBirthing. And they both had Doulas. I guess if I were to try this again, I would definitely get a doula and go to Dr Lai FM or Dr Paul Tseng who are known to be pro-Hypno. Maybe also for my second birth, my body will be more ready the next time.

When My Baby Cries, I Know Why!

Nonetheless, I think HypnoBirthing lessons really helped Gucci and me understand the birthing process so much more and I would not be able to remain calm in this entire birth process without it. Especially in the last few weeks. And being calm with breastfeeding and a crying baby.

But when I went down to the delivery suite, things quickly got out of my control. They got me strapped down again with the heartbeat monitor, take a laxative to clear my bowels and blood pressure reading etc. And of course all the questions about pain level despite our birth plan stating not to ask that. I had to negotiate at every step asking when can I have the birth ball, when can I get off the bed because lying down made the contractions worse. And my Doctor wanted to proceed to the next step which is breaking the waterbag and giving me the Pitocin drip and she did that. I guess the stress built up and at a certain moment, the contractions visibly went from pressure to pain. And it was very difficult to go back to relaxing and breathing it away. Also, with it being so intense at 2 minutes interval and the doctor estimated I still needed 8 hours to dilate, I opted for the epidural. I also slept little and was mentally exhausted to manage the contractions.

But the good thing is my body was actually responding to the pill and did not need additional drugs. The baby rejected the Pitocin with heartbeat dipping every time it was given so they switched it off and realised my contractions continued and my dilation was happening fast. So in the end, I didn’t need the second step and baby avoided the Pitocin as much as possible. I was 10 cm opened by 3-4 pm, after 7hrs.

They maintained a low dosage of epidural and lowered it further for the birthing and I started feeling the contractions again. But the birthing was another experience that deviated from the book. The nurses insisted on guided pushing and me holding my breath. I had to sit there negotiating with her and she would tell me to try but it would not work to just breathe down. I had to push instead, but holding my breath was really counter-intuitive and I could not feel I am achieving anything though the nurse assured me the baby was moving. Lila was heavy 3.345kg and had a big head 36cm diameter so even though she was anterior the last phase was tough. Because she seemed to be pressing on my tailbone, between surges, I had a horrible back pain that I needed Gucci to massage while I waited for the next surge to push. It was quite unbearable this ache in the tailbone because of the baby’s weight.

I pushed (though mentally not clench my teeth and relax my vaginal muscles) and had to hold my breath and direct the force down through the abdominal to the vagina as they guided. But still, after an hour, the baby hasn’t crowned.

I was quite exhausted but my baby was not near to crowning. So, in the end, another nurse came in and they helped to push my belly and my gynae came in and I told her to help with a ventouse suction if possible. So we tried three times with this team effort and on the third, she cut and did a bit of vacuum and with the help of the nurses pushing my belly while I pushed, Lila came out. I had a second-degree cut that was stitched but didn’t reach the anus.

Looking back, I was hoping to labour naturally at home and be able to manage contractions without medical equipment strapped to me with my familiar birth ball and labour tools available at home. But having a doctor that supports this is critical and I guess my doctor and her team were not pro-Hypno. I asked to be free from being strapped to the heart rate monitor but at that moment the only mobile heart monitor was in room 15 with Dr Paul Tseng’s patient. And my Doctor insisted on constant observation of the baby’s condition since I am already in active management and medically induced. I have two friends who successfully managed their births with natural labour w Hypnobirthing. And they both had Doulas. I guess if I were to try this again, I would definitely get a doula and go to Dr Lai FM or Dr Paul Tseng who are known to be pro-Hypno. Maybe also for my second birth, my body will be more ready the next time.

Nonetheless, I think the HypnoBirthing and prenatal lessons really helped Gucci and me understand the birthing process so much more and I would not be able to remain calm in this entire birth process without it. Especially in the last few weeks. And being calm with breastfeeding and a crying baby.